Islamic Manners – Islamic Center In Stillwater https://icstillwater.org Stillwater, OK Fri, 08 Aug 2025 02:47:07 +0000 en hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.7 https://icstillwater.org/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/cropped-site_logo_wide_small-32x32.png Islamic Manners – Islamic Center In Stillwater https://icstillwater.org 32 32 Raising one’s voice in the mosque https://icstillwater.org/raising-ones-voice-in-the-mosque/ https://icstillwater.org/raising-ones-voice-in-the-mosque/#respond Mon, 10 Mar 2025 19:45:00 +0000 https://icstillwater.org/?p=11695

Question:

What should be done about someone who speaks loudly in the mosque during prayer, causing a disturbance to worshippers? How should they be reprimanded in a way that does not violate proper etiquette, considering they have already been advised kindly but have not responded?

Answer:

All praise is due to Allah, and may peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, companions, and those who follow them.

Raising one’s voice in the mosque and disturbing worshippers is prohibited in Islam. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
“Let those of sound judgment and wisdom be nearest to me, then those who follow them, then those who follow them – three times – and beware of the commotion of the markets.” (Narrated by Muslim)

Imam Al-Nawawi explained that “the commotion of the markets” refers to the confusion, disputes, arguments, loud voices, and chaos that occur in marketplaces. The Prophet (peace be upon him) also said:
“Do not raise your voices over one another when reciting the Qur’an.” (Narrated by Malik in Al-Muwatta’)

Abu Al-Walid Al-Baji commented in Al-Muntaqa:
“If raising one’s voice while reciting the Qur’an is prohibited because it disturbs the worshippers, then raising one’s voice in conversation or anything else is even more deserving of prohibition. This also indicates a lack of respect for mosques, a disregard for their sanctity, and a failure to dedicate them to their intended purpose—remembrance of Allah. Allah the Almighty says: ‘And [in] mosques in which the name of Allah is much mentioned.’ (Surah Al-Hajj: 40)”

If someone raises their voice and disturbs the worshippers, they should be advised gently and with kindness. It is preferable to do so privately to avoid embarrassing them, so they do not resist the advice. However, if they refuse to comply and persist in their behavior, scholars have stated that such a person may be expelled from the mosque.

Imam Al-Qurtubi mentioned that scholars permitted the removal of anyone who disturbs others in the mosque, just as those with offensive odors can be asked to leave. He said:
“If the reason for expelling someone from the mosque is that they cause harm to others, then by analogy, anyone who disturbs their fellow worshippers—such as being foul-mouthed or behaving offensively—should also be removed. As long as the cause of disturbance remains, the removal remains valid.”

Abu ‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-Barr narrated:
“I witnessed our teacher, Abu ‘Umar Ahmad ibn ‘Abd al-Malik ibn Hisham (may Allah have mercy on him), issue a fatwa regarding a man whose neighbors in the mosque complained about him. They unanimously agreed that he was causing them harm with his speech and actions. After consultation, he ruled that the man should be expelled from the mosque and prohibited from attending prayers with them.”

Thus, we recommend that such cases be referred to the relevant authorities (such as calling the police or courts) to handle the matter appropriately. Worshippers should not take it upon themselves to expel the person, as this could lead to greater discord and harm.

And Allah knows best.

Arabic Translation:

:السؤال
ماذا على المتحدث بصوت عال في المسجد أثناء الصلاة، والتسبب في إيذاء المصلين فيه؟ وكيف يتم نهره بحيث لا أخالف الأدب، حيث تم نصحه بالحسنى ولم يستجب؟

:الإجابــة
الحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على نبينا محمد، وعلى آله وصحبه، ومن والاه، أما بعد
فرفع الصوت في المسجد، والتشويش على المصلين، منهي عنه شرعًا، كما في الحديث عن رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أنه قال: لِيَلِنِي مِنْكُمْ أُولُو الْأَحْلَامِ، وَالنُّهَى، ثُمَّ الَّذِينَ يَلُونَهُمْ ـ ثَلَاثًا ـ وَإِيَّاكُمْ وَهَيْشَاتِ الْأَسْوَاقِ. رواه مسلم.
قال النووي: هيشات الأسواق: هي بفتح الهاء، وإسكان الياء، وبالشين المعجمة، أي: اختلاطها، والمنازعة، والخصومات، وارتفاع الأصوات، واللغط، والفتن التي فيها. اهـ. وقال صلى الله عليه وسلم: لا يجهر بعضكم على بعض بالقرآن. رواه مالك في
الموطأ
قال أبو الوليد الباجي في المنتقى: وَإِذَا كَانَ رَفْعُ الصَّوْتِ بِقِرَاءَةِ الْقُرْآنِ مَمْنُوعًا حِينَئِذٍ؛ لإذاية الْمُصَلِّينَ، فَبِأَنْ يُمْنَعَ رَفْعُ الصَّوْتِ بِالْحَدِيثِ، وَغَيْرِهِ، أَوْلَى وَأَحْرَى.. وَلِأَنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ اسْتِخْفَافًا بِالْمَسَاجِدِ، واطراحًا لِتَوْقِيرِهَا، وَتَنْزِيهِهَا الْوَاجِبِ، وَإِفْرَادِهَا لِمَا بُنِيَتْ لَهُ مِنْ ذِكْرِ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى، قَالَ اللَّهُ الْعَظِيمُ: وَمَسَاجِدُ يُذْكَرُ فِيهَا اسْمُ اللَّهِ كَثِيرًا. اهــ.

ومن رفع صوته، وشوش على المصلين، فإنه ينبغي نصحه برفق، ولين، والأفضل سرًّا من غير إحراج له أمام سائر الناس، حتى لا يستكبر عن قبول النصيحة، فإن أبى وأصر، فقد ذكر أهل العلم أن للناس إخراجه من المسجد، كما قال القرطبي عن إخراج من له رائحة من المسجد، قال: قال العلماء: وإذا كانت العلة في إخراجه من المسجد أنه يتأذى به، ففي القياس أن كل من تأذى به جيرانه في المسجد بأن يكون ذرب اللسان، سفيًها عليهم … وكل ما يتأذى به الناس كان لهم إخراجه، ما كانت العلة موجودة فيه حتى تزول
قال أبو عمر بن عبد البر: وقد شاهدت شيخنا أبا عمر أحمد بن عبد الملك بن هشام -رحمه الله- أفتى في رجل شكاه جيرانه، واتفقوا عليه أنه يؤذيهم في المسجد بلسانه، ويده، فشوور فيه، فأفتى بإخراجه من المسجد، وإبعاده عنه، وألا يشهد معهم الصلاة. اهـ.

والذي نوصي به هو أن من كان حاله كذلك، فإنه ينبغي رفع أمره إلى الجهات المختصة (كالشرطة والقضاء)؛ حتى يزجروه عن ذلك، ولا نرى أن يتولى المصلون بأنفسهم إخراجه من المسجد؛ لأن الغالب ترتب مفسدة على هذا
والله أعلم.

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Words of Wisdom https://icstillwater.org/words-of-wisdom/ https://icstillwater.org/words-of-wisdom/#respond Sat, 13 Jul 2024 22:48:54 +0000 https://icstillwater.org/?p=8061

Words I read I found interesting:

من ضر سيُضر، ومن ظلم سيُظلم، ومن عاب ابتلى، فإن الله يمهل ولا يُهم.

And the translation goes like:

Whoever harms will be harmed, whoever oppresses will be oppressed, and whoever criticizes will be tested, for Allah gives respite but does not neglect.

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Talking Wordly Matters in The Mosque https://icstillwater.org/talking-wordly-matters-in-the-mosque/ https://icstillwater.org/talking-wordly-matters-in-the-mosque/#respond Thu, 20 Jun 2024 16:18:26 +0000 https://icstillwater.org/?p=7832

Question:

The hadith in which the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “If anyone hears a man announcing something lost in the mosque, let him say: ‘May Allah not return it to you,’ for the mosques were not built for this purpose,”
What does the hadith mean?

Meaning of the Hadith:

  1. Purpose of Mosques:

    • The primary purpose of mosques is for the worship of Allah, including performing prayers, reciting the Quran, and engaging in religious education and remembrance of Allah. Mosques are places of tranquility and spirituality.
  2. Prohibition of Announcing Lost Items:

    • Announcing lost items in the mosque is prohibited because it distracts worshippers from the primary functions of the mosque. It introduces a worldly concern that can disturb the peaceful atmosphere intended for worship.
  3. Consequences of Distraction:

    • By saying “May Allah not return it to you,” the hadith emphasizes discouraging such behavior to maintain the sanctity and respect of the mosque. This statement acts as a deterrent, underscoring the seriousness of maintaining the mosque’s intended purpose.
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Speaking Loudly in The Mosque https://icstillwater.org/speaking-loudly-in-the-mosque/ https://icstillwater.org/speaking-loudly-in-the-mosque/#respond Thu, 20 Jun 2024 15:40:05 +0000 https://icstillwater.org/?p=7815

Question:

What should be done about someone who speaks loudly in the mosque during prayer and causes disturbance to the worshippers? And how can I admonish him without being impolite, considering he has been advised kindly but has not responded?

Answer:

All praise is due to Allah, and may peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, companions, and those who follow them. As for what follows:

Raising one’s voice in the mosque and causing disturbance to the worshipers is prohibited according to Islamic law, as mentioned in the hadith where the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “Let those among you who are mature and wise stand closest to me, then those who are next to them – three times – and beware of the commotion of the markets.” (Narrated by Muslim).

Imam Nawawi explained: “The commotion of the markets” refers to the mixing, disputes, arguments, raised voices, and the chaos that occurs in them.

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) also said: “Do not raise your voices over one another when reciting the Quran.” (Narrated by Malik in Al-Muwatta).

Abu Al-Walid Al-Baji commented in Al-Muntaqa: “If raising the voice with the recitation of the Quran is prohibited due to causing disturbance to those praying, then it is even more appropriate and necessary to prevent raising the voice with conversation or other matters. This is because such behavior shows disrespect for the mosques, neglects their due reverence, and contradicts their purpose of being places for the remembrance of Allah. Allah the Almighty says: ‘(In houses which Allah has ordered to be raised, in them His Name is remembered)’ (Quran 24:36).”

If someone raises their voice and disturbs the worshippers, they should be advised gently and kindly, preferably in private to avoid embarrassing them in front of others, so that they are not driven to reject the advice out of pride. If they refuse and persist, scholars have mentioned that people have the right to remove them from the mosque. Al-Qurtubi, when discussing the removal of someone with a bad smell from the mosque, said: “Scholars have said that if the reason for removing someone from the mosque is due to causing harm, then by analogy, anyone who harms their neighbors in the mosque by being foul-mouthed or insulting them… or causing any harm, people have the right to remove them as long as the cause of harm exists.”

Ibn Abdul Barr mentioned: “I have seen our teacher Abu Amr Ahmad ibn Abdul Malik ibn Hisham – may Allah have mercy on him – issue a fatwa regarding a man whose neighbors complained about him unanimously, stating that he harmed them in the mosque with his tongue and hand. After consulting, he issued a fatwa to expel him from the mosque and to prevent him from attending prayers with them.”

We advise that such matters be reported to the relevant authorities so they can take appropriate action to stop the individual from causing disturbance. We do not recommend that worshipers take it upon themselves to expel someone from the mosque, as this often leads to further problems.

And Allah knows best.

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Dr. Ahmed Abo Basha https://icstillwater.org/dr-ahmed-abo-basha/ https://icstillwater.org/dr-ahmed-abo-basha/#respond Fri, 24 May 2024 18:08:00 +0000 https://icstillwater.org/?p=6915

Dr. Ahmed Abo Basha, currently in his home country of Egypt, remains actively engaged in charitable endeavors. Among his notable initiatives is the completion of an Islamic center, which includes a Masjid, a medical facility, and a social center designed to support the local community.

In addition to his philanthropic work, Dr. Abo Basha has also reconnected with his passion for football (soccer). He recently visited his first youth center, where he reunited with many of his old friends.

May Allah accept his deeds and make them all for his own sake.

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Mosque Etiquette https://icstillwater.org/mosque-etiquette/ https://icstillwater.org/mosque-etiquette/#respond Fri, 17 May 2024 08:58:11 +0000 https://icstillwater.org/?p=6553

Masjid (mosque) etiquette and rules

Reiterating the significance of maintaining the mosque’s cleanliness and upkeep, and ensuring it is always prepared to welcome visitors, has been a frequent topic of discussion. However, the observed behaviors indicate a lack of attention to these matters. Parents bring their children to the ISS facilities, yet there seems to be little supervision as the children engage in play without guidance or oversight from adults, resulting in behaviors that do not align with Islamic manners.

Please take a moment to view the attached pictures.

Surprisingly, the library here inexplicably includes a pool table! In all my time here, I have never once witnessed a parent accompanying their children upstairs (which is also not allowed) to ensure their safety, monitor their behavior, or for any other purpose.

This behavior is unacceptable. Despite being in the US for a considerable period, I have never encountered such negligence from, I regret to say, non-Muslim parents.

As the individual who brought this matter to my attention aptly described it: ‘This is not the behavior of civilized, educated, or respectable individuals, let alone those who fear Allah.”

I’ll pause here, as the pictures speak volumes.

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Last 10 days of Ramadan https://icstillwater.org/last-10-days-of-ramadan/ https://icstillwater.org/last-10-days-of-ramadan/#respond Thu, 28 Mar 2024 16:28:46 +0000 https://icstillwater.org/?p=5986

How to make the most of the last 10 days of Ramadan?

Only 10 days left of Ramadan. As I used to say, the fastest thing in this life is light, and time is connected to the speed of light when we think of the universe as a 4D world.

Here is some advice for all of us to make the most out of those 10 days:

  1. Pray two Raka’ah every night (Qiyamul Layl) with 100 verses from the Qur’an. You can hold the Qur’an to read from it. If the night is Laylatul Qadr, you will be written among the “Qaniteen” for 84 years.
  2. Read Surah “Al- Ikhlas” (Qul Whoa Allahu Ahad) three times every night. If the night is Laylatul Qadr, you will be among those who read the whole Quran every night for 84 nights.
  3. Read the last two verses of Surah Al-Baqarah. If the night is Laylatul Qadr, you will be among those who made Qiyamul Layl for 30,000 nights.
  4. Repeat every night: “La Ilaha Illa Alla Wahdahu La shareeka lahu, Lahul Mulk, Wa Lahul Alhamd, Wa Whoa Ala Kol Shayun Qadeer.” If the night is Laylatul Qadr, it will be like freeing 300,000 slaves. Each frees (saves) from the hellfire.
  5. Repeat: “La Ilaha Illa Alla Wahdahu La shareeka lahu, Allahu Akbaru Kabeera, Wa Alahmdul Lillah katheera, Subhan Allah Al-Alyul Azeem, Subhan Allahi Rabul Alameen, La Hawla Wala Quata Illa Billahi Al-Alyul Azeem.” Then say: “Oh Allah, forgive me, have mercy on me, guide me, and give me rizk.”
  6. perform 100 prayers on Prophet Muhammad. If the night is Laylatul Qadr, you will have 3 millions blessings and forgiveness from Allah (SWT)

I hope this will help some of the true believers get the most out of the last 10 days (nights) of Ramadan.

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Keep The ICS Clean https://icstillwater.org/keep-the-iss-clean/ https://icstillwater.org/keep-the-iss-clean/#respond Tue, 19 Mar 2024 23:14:37 +0000 http://icstillwater.org/?p=5896

Keep The ICS Clean

We all recognize the importance of maintaining the ICS as a clean and welcoming space. However, it is concerning that many ICS members do not consistently observe the basic Islamic etiquettes that Allah, may He be Exalted, and His Messenger have commanded us to uphold. Among the most pressing challenges is ensuring the building remains as tidy as possible, especially given the large number of visitors it receives.

On numerous occasions, I have noticed members neglecting to clean up after their children. It is also common to see people leave the premises without turning off the lights. Additionally, I have witnessed—and, regrettably, heard—some raising their voices within the building multiple times. Since the ISS site includes a mosque, it bears repeating that raising one’s voice inside a mosque is forbidden, indeed “haram.”

Just today, March 19, 2024, I observed Dr. Ahmad Abou Basha, a respected septuagenarian, personally cleaning the tea and coffee area as well as the refrigerator. This is not his first time, nor will it likely be his last. Given that this area is a busy gathering spot for many members, it is disheartening that, aside from Dr. Abou Basha and myself, I rarely see others taking responsibility for its upkeep.

Why do some find it difficult to clean up after themselves? More broadly, why is maintaining the cleanliness of our shared space such a challenge? Imagine if we welcomed visitors and their first impression was of a disorganized or untidy tea and coffee area—what message would that send?

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People’s Behavior at The ICS https://icstillwater.org/muslims-behavior/ https://icstillwater.org/muslims-behavior/#respond Mon, 29 Jan 2024 03:34:26 +0000 http://icstillwater.org/?p=5209

Islamic Manners Among Muslims

Islamic manners among Muslims are frequently emphasized, often highlighted in Jumuah Khutbah (Friday sermons). However, it appears that these reminders have become somewhat of a ritual, where we listen to the speeches without truly reflecting on their significance or implementing their teachings in our lives.

Rather than reiterating these teachings, I wish to draw attention to a common occurrence where despite our familiarity with Quranic verses and Hadiths regarding interpersonal conduct, instances of offensive behavior towards fellow Muslims arise. Occasionally, a member may utter words that not only offend an individual but also disparage an entire group based on nationality or other identities.

Recently, a brother shared his grievance over being personally insulted, along with his entire nationality, by derogatory remarks. Such incidents should be avoided at all costs.

While there are established protocols and guidelines to address such situations, initiating formal actions may not always be feasible or effective. I am grateful not to bear the responsibility of making such decisions.

Therefore, I implore all members of our community to exercise restraint in moments of anger and to be mindful of their words. While cultural and background differences may exist, adherence to good Islamic manners is a universal obligation for all Muslims and cannot be disputed. And to always remember that you are an image of your society and your nationality.

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